The Circle of Courage

 

 

Below is a new idea that was shared with us about teaching and involving people in the community. Read over it and share your ideas about what you think of it.

The “Circle of Courage” developed by Larry Brendtro, Martin Brokenleg, and Steven Van Bockern is just one of hundreds of models for explaining why people do what they do and how we should treat others and educate students (especially those with emotional and behavioral problems).  It is based on a Native American/American Indian orientation toward life (specifically how the Sioux Nation might view life), but agrees with the models of other cultural groups.  It matches up nicely with the views of Western psychology (as promoted by William Glasser and Rudolph Dreikers, among others), East Asian views (the Ying-Yang, all things in balance and harmony orientation), and the African-American belief system as espoused by writers such as Ogbu, DuBois, Kunjufu, and Hilliard.

    The Circle of Courage model can be used to identify the source of the behavioral problem, and guide our rehabilitation or “reclaiming” efforts.  The model is presented visually as a wheel with four spokes or supports that keep the wheel “true” and strong.. 
      It is believed that all four parts of an individual’s “circle” must be intact to have a self-secure, prosocial approach to life.  A lack of strength in any of the four areas of development can result in emotional and behavioral difficulties.

    The most important component, upon which the other three are based is a well developed sense of “Belonging“.  Humans have a need to feel valued, important and protected by others…to feel comfortable and welcomed within a group: family, friends, colleagues, etc.  Of course the family and close community are the most important influences on the original development of this area of self esteem.  Those who have weak senses of belonging due to a disrupted or non-supportive upbringing are often able to rebuild or strengthen that area by developing close allegiances, friendships, and relationships later in their lives with positive people and groups.  However, those who do not repair that broken area of self concept may show one or more of many problems in relating to others.  They may join into or identify with negative groups that promote crime or religious hatred or some other distorted views.  This connection with negative influences is done in an attempt to feel important and be accepted within a social structure.  They may become non-responsive or resistant to the efforts of good people and groups (including counselors and teachers) because they do not feel worthy of inclusion, or for fear of being rejected by positive people at some point in the future.  In essence, they scare off those with whom they most want to be connected.

         If one has an impaired, distorted, or absent sense of belonging, it will probably effect one or more of the other areas.  For example, those who have a strong sense of “Generosity” (because those in the groups to which they belonged when they were young shared time, work, play, resources, and knowledge) are empathetic toward others and want to help others.  They give of themselves or their possessions in some way.  They truly have the “joy of giving”, receiving pleasure from helping others in need.  Folks who have a distorted or absent sense of generosity will be “stingy”, lack concern for the welfare of others, be callous in their interactions with others, and “take” rather than “give”. 
        Those who are strong in the quadrant of “Mastery” feel competent in their abilities, seek more skills and knowledge, and are willing to fail or look unskilled when they try new things.  Those with an impaired sense of mastery have a low self concept, fear failure, may refuse to try a task for fear of failure, give up easily, are dependent on others, and/or may devalue and ridicule schooling or the efforts of others.

Persons with a strong sense of “Independence” feel in control of themselves, their behavior, and their lives.  They have a well-developed sense of autonomy, and accept responsibility for themselves and their actions.  On the other hand, those who have a lessened or absent sense of independence are likely to engage in “scatter-brained behavior, be easily swayed by others, and blame circumstances/others for their actions.

Reflection Questions – Week 3 Chapters 8-11

“Humans were created to be whole persons, with physical, mental and spiritual dimensions.  Deprivation in any of these dimensions has a deadening effect on the others, since all parts are interrelated and interactive…The soul without a body is ghost; a body without a soul is a corpse.” (p 89)  Have you seen examples of ministries that work to meet the needs of the whole person?  Can you give some examples?

“Programs and services benefit a local community only to the degree that they come from the “bottom up”, that is, reflect the actual felt needs of the people being served. If programs and services are done for a community, rather than with and by the people of the community, these programs do not help the people of the community develop.  In order to do so, we need to give responsibility for programs at least in part to them.”  (p103)  Can you give some examples of programs where those being served are given responsibility for the program?   What should be the first step prior to developing programs?

On page 106 – 107, Perkins talks about “listening meetings” and gives examples of how to engage the community.  What does he mean by that?  Where does he suggest these meetings be held?  What might this look like in the context you feel called to minister in?

What does Perkins claim is the most important sign that long-term community development is really taking place? (p118)

What are some ways congregations can get involved in helping start local enterprises? Do you know individuals who are small business owners who might be willing to mentor someone in starting a small business as Perkins recommends?  (p. 123)

Perkins states “Following Jesus will sometimes mean following him into the darkest and most dangerous places.  If Jesus were to visit us today, many of us would not be able to follow him becasue surely he would spend much of his time in the inner cities.”  Are you willing to follow Christ into the inner city?  Why do you think so few people are willing to serve those with the greatest needs? (p. 131)

Spring ’09 Evening Session – Barriers to housing stability

On April 30th,  we looked at the main barriers to individuals obtaining and maintaining housing.  Wendy pointed out that individuals must have employment in order to enter transitional and private party housing.  Even those who have employment are often unable to maintain employment due to recurring issues with substance abuse, which is the largest single contributing factor to homelessness.

We discussed issues of healing, specifically spiritual healing associated with recovery.  Jim Trefil did a brief presentation on the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous and their relationship to the principles of the Oxford Group, a non-denominational group espousing “first-century Christian principles.”

The four “procedures” of the Oxford Group were: (1) The sharing of our sins and temptations with another Christian life given to God; (2) Surrender our life past, present and future, into God’s keeping and direction; (3) Restitution to all whom we have wronged directly or indirectly; and (4) Listening for God’s guidance, and carrying it out.

Jim discussed each of these procedures in turn, demonstrating how each related to one or more of AA’s 12 steps.  The first procedure, for example, correlates closely with AA’s 4th (moral inventory), 5th (admission of “exact nature of wrongs” to God, self, and another human being) and 12th steps (carrying the message to others). 

The second procedure tracks AA’s 3rd step, in which alcoholics make a decision to turn their will and their lives over to the care of God.  The third procedure tracks AA’s 8th and 9th steps, which direct the alcoholic to identify all those he has harmed, and to make direct amends to as many of these people as possible.

The fourth, and last, Oxford Group procedure is AA’s 11th Step, in which the alcoholic carries out, on a daily basis, his decision to abandon self-will (“dying to self”) in favor of God’s will, a will he discerns through continual prayer and meditation.

Viewed in this light, Jim pointed out that AA, although it is open to all religions, has a deep Christian foundation.  The concepts of confession and restitution, or as Jim called it, a reckoning, are well known in Christianity, and following the 12 Steps might be a good course for any Christian to follow, whether alcoholic or not.

We subsequently discussed the application of the 12 steps, and how members of the Healing Place do so in their day-today lives.  Jim and Ron Smith, another Healing Place graduate, shared at length about some of the difficulties in following such a path, but both agreed that the rewards were well worth it.

For those who do find the spiritual healing needed to overcome their addiction, they often are unable to find employers who are willing to give them a job due to their job history or criminal record.  In the current tough economic times we are seeing far more clients successfully complete The Healing Place program just to find themselves homeless and jobless, sleeping in the overnight shelter. 

We talked about the role the church can play in helping to connect individuals who have successfully completed recovery programs and who have demonstrated a desire to turn their lives around.  One of the most significant ways congregations can help is to connect graduates with potential employers.  Congregational volunteers can also serve as career mentors helping job seekers surf the Internet, prepare for interviews, and preparing resumes.  However the most valuable gift the career mentor brings is hope.  Many become depressed and discouraged when faced with closed doors and rejection.  Prayer, encouragement and the fact that someone cares can make the difference between someone persevering through this difficult transition or returning to the street.

Reflection Questions for Chapters 1-4 in Beyond Charity

I hope you are all enjoying the Perkins book.  Below are a few reflection questions to get us thinking about this weeks readings. 

Review the list page 22, which of these stats alarmed you?  Which ones most convicted you?  Which ones broke your heart?  (If none of these stats broke your heart, you need to keep praying our Fransician prayer!)

On page 23 Perkins says “Sometimes our giving is motivated by guilt.  When this is the case we are giving for selfish reasons – to make ourselves feel better.”  What did you think of that comment.  Can you give an example of a time when you responded out of guilt?

What do you think Perkins meant by his comment on page 24 “If the past thirty years have taught us anything about the poverty mentality it is that undisciplined giving can be just as distructive as the poverty it is meant to allieviate.”

 Have you ever experienced the “wild card of race” Perkins mentions on page 25?  Give an example

On page 29, Perkins asks “What should Christian Community look like in an hour such as this?”  How would you answer this question.

Perkins says “A significant bond of trust develops when a leader is dependant on the people and the people see themselves as part of the leaders survival.”  Have you ever been dependant on those you serve for your survival?  What might that look like?

On page 35 Perkins summarizes the most significant human needs.  Which of these needs have you personally experienced and how was your need met?  How might you or your congregation help meet one or more of these needs?

How would you explain Perkins “Theology of Reconciliation” to a friend?

What do you think are the most important marks of the church?

Do you agree with Perkins that today’s church has ignored God’s call to be a blessing to the nations? (p 48)  What might that look like in Richmond?

Have you personally experienced the truth of Perkins claim that “the love of God is most fully expressed where there is pain and suffering” ?” (p. 60)

How comfortable are you allowing God to teach you, encourage you, and reveal his love to you anew through the people you want to serve?  (p. 63)

Spring 2009 Evening Session- Homeless Network

This past Thursday, Erika Haskins from Homeward was with us and she shared with us some information about the homeless network system. She emphasized the gaps that exist on either end of the spectrum in prevention and in permanent housing stability and the two year process that people in homelessness go through in order to get from one end of the spectrum to the other. Beyond those needs we talked about having a one stop- service site for the homeless. A place where certain kinds of services are provided depending on what the needs are and what can be maintained with order. There are other models of sites that are doing this and homeless services providers are finding these one-stop sites to be very helpful. Through these sites, people in homelessness can get what they need in one place instead of having to travel across a city, most likely without funds, to get to another service provider . We didn’t get a chance to break into groups and discuss how the church could meet the needs of some of the gaps that Erika talked about. As you blog, consider your personal assets document- these are assets that are tangible( car, house, a job, etc) as well assets that are not, such as spiritual gifts (teaching, encouragement, mercy, etc)…how could you use the assets that you have to help in the gaps that exist in the homeless system that Erika spoke about? Also, feel free to discuss any other ideas that you have from the conversation that night, or any questions.

Spring 2009 Evening- Opening Session

Hello to our Spring 2009 Evening Workshop of Unity Works. As we explained in our first session, you will have to participate in the blogs weekly- sharing your thoughts and ideas about the book as well as what we may have discussed in the workshop session.

This past week was our first session, which was an introduction to Unity Works and understanding the break down of the homeless population and their needs in a very general sense. We posed this question to the group: what do you think are some of the biggest obstacles that prevent us from reaching solutions to the issues of poverty? There was a wide array of answers from, ignorance, lack of understanding, and fear… to politics, government/red tape, and money. The question is, with all of these obstacles, how would anyone know where to begin or even how to begin? Obviously there are numerous obstacles to overcome, but we believe that by sharing with you some of biggest  barriers our clients face that you will understand the system a little bit better and have a better idea of how and where to plug into helping overcome some of those barriers for some of those within the homeless system.

There is no better way of starting, than by understanding where you are in how you serve those in the city right and which direction you may want to go in the future? Your homework assignment for this first session was to read the Perkins book, Chapter 14 and to decide what type of servant you are, as well as doing the Assets packet. Please respond to this blog by discussing some of the obstacles that were not mentioned, or the type of servant that you are or anything that you found to be interesting within the reading.

Tough Question; Where is Jesus?

202  In response to our discussion on Substance Abuse, one of our Unity Works participants asked a very challenging question about the role of the Gospel and AA programs.  Since my response to that question is a very personal one that reveals much of my personal theology I have posted my response on my personal blog www.wendymccaig.wordpress.com.  My response represents my own personal understanding and is not intended to represent the beliefs of Embrace Richmond, the staff or the Board of Directors.  I invite you to read this post solely as one from Wendy McCaig a fellow traveler on this journey.

Dreams of a Dreamer

In September of 2004, just one month before I met Shannon and a year before Embrace started, after spending the entire summer in prayer about where God would lead me after seminary.  I composed my personal dream, vision, and mission.  I started by listing out the key verses that spoke most powerfully to me and meditated on those passages.  Out of that time of prayer, the following statements emerged.

This week you are all asked to present your dreams in response to the question “If you could do anything for God and knew you would not fail, what would you do?”  Some of your visions will be fully formed and others will be a vague hint of what is to come.  As you will see from the statement that launched me on my journey; it is short on details but the essence of what I wrote is still what propels my ministry.  The details have become a bit clearer and as I shared this week, it continue to morph as God reveals more and more the longer I seek to follow.

I pray you all have a time of solitude to commit to pray about all you have learned about the needs of the homeless population and as you seek to discern your unique gifts and calling.  We are looking for the intersection between the mandates of God, the needs of God’s people, and your callings and desires.  I suggest you start with your theological rocks; those passages of Scripture or teachings that most speak to you.  I hope by sharing where my journey started you will be inspired as you venture out on your own.

  September 1, 2004             

 

 



The Dream

 

To be a part of a ministry that makes a lasting difference in the lives of people, one that is grounded in truth and genuine community, one that releases the dreams of God’s people into the world so that they may continue Jesus’ mission to the poor, captives, oppressed and the blind. 

 

  

The Vision

 

I dream of a community made up of individuals who gather in small groups for support, encouragement, prayer and guidance as they travel their own personal spiritual journey. 

 

I envision periodic gatherings where people of faith come together for sharing, inspiration, teaching and worship. 

 

I see people growing in their love of God , acceptance of self, and desire to care for others as they travel the sacred pathways of prayer, study of scripture, participation in Christian community and service to “the least of these”. 

  

I believe God plants a desire in the heart of every person who commits their life to Christ to continue Christ’s mission on earth.  This desire or dream grows out of a vision of the world as God would desire it to be. 

 

I see small groups of people sharing their dreams of a more compassionate, grace filled world with one another and committing their gifts, talents and abilities toward the fulfillment of those dreams. 

 

I see these God given dreams being realized by the power of the Holy Spirit and through the nurture and support of fellow laborers. 

 

As these dreams are realized, the world will hear once homeless and neglected children laughing, once battered and beaten women rejoicing, once lonely and forgotten widows singing, and once hungry and poor brothers praising;  for their Comforter will have come through the faithful  who found the courage to pursue their dreams of a transformed world. 

 

My desire is that this movement of the Spirit would draw all believers together around the common vision of a transformed community and that people from all faith backgrounds, races and socio-economic levels will join hands and truly be the “Body of Christ” that God intended us to be. 

 

 

I want to see a world changed one life, one dream at a time. 

 

 Personal Mission

 

To empower people of faith to live their God given dreams by nurturing their love of God, self and others. 

 

 

Key biblical Passages:

The Great Commandment: Mat 22:37

You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul and with all your mind and you shall love your neighbor as yourself.  Mat 22:37

Our Mission according to Micah (God): Micah 6:9

He has told you, O mortal, what is good; and what does the Lord require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness and to walk humbly with your God?  Micah 6:9

Jesus Mission Statement: Luke 4:18-19

The spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he has anointed me to bring good news to the poor.  He has sent me to proclaim release to the captives and recovery of sight to the blind, to let the oppressed go free, to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor. Lk 4:18-19

Christ Promise:  Mat 25:40

Truly I tell you just as you did it to one of the least of these who are members of my family, you did it to me.

The Strategic Plan: Eph 4:11-13

The gifts he gave were that some would be apostles, some prophets, some evangelists, some pastors and teachers, to equip the saints for the work of ministry, for building up the body of Christ, until all of us come to the unity of the faith and of the knowledge of the son of God, to maturity, to the measure of the full stature of Christ.  Eph 4:11-13 ( and entire chapter)

By  Wendy McCaig

Rudy living his dream

God works a miracle in Midlothian as Rudy is faithful to his call.

Rudy\’s Blessing-read more

Healing/ Substance Abuse Spring 2009

Jim Trefil was our speaker this past week; he served as a peer mentor at The Healing Place and now works with us at Caritas Works and Embrace Richmond. He educated us on the history of The Healing Place and then went into the specifics of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA).  We learned that day, that AA was founded in 1935, and Bill Wilson was helped by Ebby Thatcher who became sober through the Oxford Group. The Ox ford Group was not about substance abuse, but rather it was a religious group that professed early Christian teachings turning away from denominational separations. It most importantly had a plan of action which included the 4 procedures Jim mentioned .The first procedure was “examine and share sins and temptations with another Christian, use that sharing to witness to others,” which related to the 4th, 5th and 12th step in AA. The 2nd procedure was to “surrender all of life into God’s direction,” which is the 3rd step in AA. The third procedure is to “make restitution to all we have directly or indirectly harmed,” which is the 8th and 9th step. The fourth and final procedure was to “listen to and carry out God’s guidance in all things,” which is the 11th step. These were not to help get sober but to encourage members to live up to the teachings of Christ, which we undoubtedly see in our guys from the Healing Place as they partake in Community with one another. As we stated in the workshop that day, all of you will be invited to see a Community session at the Healing Place, so you can see some of these principles come to life.

 

Substance Abuse affects 60-70% of the homeless population and as Rudy and Jim both said it takes healing to get past it. This healing does not just occur in dealing with the issue of substance use, but rather getting to what is deeper. The founders of AA became sober because they understood that it took something greater than them to heal their lives and their need for alcohol, it took understanding God and who they were in God. We heard Rudy say that over the door at the Healing Place a sign says, “Be Yourself, Everyone Else is Taken,” sometimes we all have to understand that God created each of us uniquely and that in itself is part of the healing process. Through the process at the Healing Place the men that leave there find a “God of their understanding” in order to really make it, one of our Americorps members, Charles, always says, “ If you don’t get the God part of the program you don’t get the program and you’ll be back.” After hearing Jim give the history, and Rudy share his story and his faith, how comfortable are you with, “God of my understanding?”  Or both of the guys mentioned that their church is “The Healing Place,” what is your response to that? Our friends found healing through Alcoholics Anonymous and guidance of “The Big Book”, not the Church. Or maybe I should ask, what is the church? Please feel free to discuss.